Hello Reader, My "No problem!" response was actually my biggest problem Belinda had it all on paper: a career in finance, two kids, a home full of love. But she also had something else: the constant feeling that her life was one long to-do list she didn’t sign up for. Sound familiar? From unrealistic societal expectations to the invisible mental load, many women wake up one day and realize they’ve lost sight of who they are outside of work, motherhood, and “keeping it all together.” Here’s...
18 days ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, My "No problem!" response was actually my biggest problem I used to think my endless understanding was a virtue. That being “chill” and “accommodating” made me easy to be around. Spoiler: it didn’t. It made me resentful. burnt out. invisible. What I thought was kindness was really fear.Fear of being called “difficult.”Fear of conflict.Fear of putting my needs first. In my latest blog post, I break down the difference between empathy and enabling, and how to stop gaslighting...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, What to Do When Leading and Managing Is Stressing You Out One of the reasons I find leadership so isolating is because I don't feel like anyone cares about my needs. I'm always watching out for everyone else. It took me a long time to figure out that I needed to build resilience and a support network to help protect me from chronic stress and burnout. Ice cream also helps. READ MORE HERE While You Were Busy Being Awesome... Why Fun Is No Longer Optional in Your Day READ FORE...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, Why Fun, Play & Laughter Aren't Optional in Your Day While this is no such thing officially as a "burnout cure," fun and laughter are pretty darn close. Fun is usually the first thing we remove from our schedules and to do lists because it's seen as "unproductive." Well, you've been fooled because play (and laughter) increase productivity and creativity, help you think clearly, and lead you to make better decisions. Guess what else it does? READ MORE RIGHT NOW While You Were...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, The Career Boundary That Saved My Ass Another day, another crisis. That’s how I used to operate. Everybody’s monkeys became part of my circus. Client running late? No problem. (Even though it was.) Client forgot to make a reservation during a holiday? I got ya. (Even though they’d ignored three reminders.)Client couldn’t possibly drop off or pick up during business hours? Come on in. (Even though I wanted to slam the door in their face.) I was quietly seething and resentful,...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, A Missing Sock Sent Her Over the Edge — Here’s Why You’d think a C-Suite executive would break down over a missed deadline or a million-dollar deal gone sideways, right? Nope. For my client Elaine*, it was her 8-year-old’s lost sock that sent her completely over the edge. Yep — a sock. Turns out, the smallest, most innocent requests can be the final straw when you’re burned out and running on fumes. Elaine was the definition of “high achieving” — reached the C-Suite in her...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, Feeling Lost? Or, Like You Don't Know Who You Are or What You Want? If you've ever suddenly "woke up" from your life and feel like you don't recognize yourself ... Oooff. I can totally relate. Feeling lost or frustrated about a life that you don't enjoy is incredibly stressful. Here is what to do next. Help Me Find Myself In case you were busy being awesome... Build Mental Strength Women break free from stress and burnout with practical, science-backed tools that take just 5–10...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader, How to tell if stress is running your life - and what to do about it How many times has someone told you that you seem stressed out, agitated, or exhausted? That maybe you should “reschedule” because it looks like you’ve got a lot on your mind? Not only do you and I lack a poker face, but these are two of several signs that stress has taken over your life and is making decisions for you. WHAT SIGNS AM I SHOWING? In Case You Were Busy Being Awesome... Ready to stop carrying the...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Hello Reader! Skip the 5 AM Club: A Better Way to Start Your Day I am not a morning person. I used to be. But something clicked inside my head and told me to start sleeping in. I felt really bad about it. Lazy and like I appeared unambitious. Like me, you've likely been inundated with productivity gurus touting the virtues of waking before sunrise, then meditating, journaling, doing vigorous exercise, and eating a healthy breakfast. Is all of that really necessary? Or, does it create more...
3 months ago • 1 min read